I always found interesting (curious) how gay men are considered the gurus of “fashion” or the always go-to person when it comes to style.
It is a cliché, but it is based on truth (almost all stereotypes are) I mean, when I studied fashion design most of the guys there were gay and then the ones who went on to make a career out of it. Also all of the professional male fashion designers I’ve met in person are, you guessed it, gay.
I don’t necessarily think that this is a bad stereotype, but for some reason I don’t like the ownership over fashion that some gay men think they have – and I include myself in this group. From a very young age (gagging at the Miss Venezuela pageant dresses) I have always been mesmerized by fashion and it is something I consider myself good at. Some people can make on hell of an omelette, I can throw an outfit together. It has never seemed to me like an awful thing to be good at, in fact, I’ve always been proud of it – and that’s kind of the problem. It’s made it for me almost impossible to pretend when I see something I don’t like or when somebody asks for my opinion on what they’re wearing.
Most of the times I lie, with a forced smile and between gritted teeth I tell them that they look fine. But probably the worst is when I go around the streets thinking I’m the fucking Fashion Police or something and in my head I’m going like: “What the fuck is she wearing?”
I would never tell a stranger that I hate their outfit (although I’ve been tempted) so it’s not like I walk around hurting people’s feelings or something, but I always end up exhausted. It seems like fun at first, but critiquing all the time IS. JUST. EXHAUSTING. Besides, who am I to tell people what looks good or what does not?
And for some reason, women always get the worst of it. I don’t know why, but there is some bullshit in our society that makes people believe that it is okay to nitpick on someone else just because they’re female. What their wearing, what their not wearing, if their too skinny or too fat, if they got married too early or they haven’t gotten married yet. Gay men, straight men, other women, we all do it.
Have you ever been a victim of Super Gay? If so let me know and don’t worry, WE’LL FIX IT!!!
I remembered this video that I saw a while ago that explains very well (and in a funnier way) what I was trying to say.